When Perfect Isn t Good Enough

Author: Martin M. Antony
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781572245594
Release Date: 2009
Genre: Self-Help

This fully revised and updated edition of a best-selling classic offers the latest research and treatment methods - including cutting-edge acceptance-based strategies from a cognitive behavioural perspective, as well as the latest on medications - for readers who dread making mistakes and feel that nothing they do is quite good enough to help them overcome their need to be perfect. This book explores the nature of perfectionism and offers a step-by-step program of cognitive-behavioural and acceptance-based strategies from a cognitive behavioural perspective to overcome the problem. It includes an explanation of the causes and characteristics of perfectionism and shows you how to assess the impact that it has on your life. The book offers tips on dealing with others who are perfectionists. Exercises help challenge unrealistic expectations and work on specific areas where perfectionism is a problem.

Never Good Enough

Author: Monica Ramirez Basco
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9780684862934
Release Date: 2000-03-02
Genre: Psychology

Shows how perfection can cause depression, low self-esteem, and other problems and leads readers through a comprehensive program designed to release them from its grip.

Too Perfect

Author: Jeannette Dewyze
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 9780307798626
Release Date: 2011-06-29
Genre: Self-Help

For many of us, perfectionism can bring life's most desired rewards. But when the obsessive need for perfection and control gets in the way of our professional and emotional lives, the cost becomes too high. Although many of us appear cool and confident on the outside, inside we are in emotional turmoil, trying to satisfy everyone, attempting to direct the future, and feeling that we are failing. In TOO PERFECT, Dr. Allan Mallinger draws on twenty years of research and observations from his private practice to show how perfectionism can sap energy, complicate even the simplest decisions, and take the enjoyment out of life. For workaholics or neat freaks, for anyone who fears change or making mistakes, needs rigid rules, is excessively frugal or obstinate, TOO PERFECT offers revealing self-tests, fascinating case histories, and practical strategies to help us overcome obsessiveness and reclaim our right to happiness. From the Trade Paperback edition.

What to Do When Good Enough Isn t Good Enough

Author: Thomas S. Greenspon
Publisher: Free Spirit Publishing
ISBN: 9781575428796
Release Date: 2007-03-15
Genre: Juvenile Nonfiction

Perfectionism may seem like a worthy goal, but it’s actually a burden. When you believe you must be perfect, you live in constant fear of making mistakes. Most children don’t know what perfectionism is, yet many suffer from it. Nothing they do is ever good enough. School assignments are hard to start or hand in. Relationships are challenging, and self-esteem is low. Written to and for ages 9–13, this book helps kids understand how perfectionism hurts them and how to free themselves. Includes true-to-life vignettes, exercises, and a note to grown-ups.

Cognitive Behavioral Treatment of Perfectionism

Author: Sarah J. Egan
Publisher: Guilford Publications
ISBN: 9781462527649
Release Date: 2016-06-29
Genre: Psychology

This practical resource provides an evidence-based framework for treating clients struggling with perfectionism, whether as the main presenting problem or in conjunction with depression, eating disorders, anxiety disorders, or obsessive-compulsive disorder. Using a case formulation approach, the authors draw on their extensive cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) experience to present specific techniques and interventions. Coverage spans treatment planning, the therapeutic alliance, key obstacles that may arise, relapse prevention, and emerging research. Reproducible assessment scales and 36 patient handouts are included; purchasers get access to a Web page where they can download and print the reproducible materials in a convenient 8 1/2" x 11" size.

The Perfectionist s Handbook

Author: Jeff Szymanski
Publisher: John Wiley & Sons
ISBN: 9781118118689
Release Date: 2011-08-15
Genre: Business & Economics

A guide for getting your perfectionism to work for you Is perfectionism a good thing or does it get in our way? In The Perfectionist's Handbook, clinical psychologist Jeff Szymanski helps readers navigate their way out of the "perfectionism paradox": if your intentions are good (wanting to excel) and the outcomes you want are reasonable (to feel competent and satisfied), why would perfectionism backfire and result in unhappiness and stress? Learn when perfectionism will pay off, and when and why it sabotages you. Specific strategies are outlined throughout the book to help readers transform their perfectionism from a liability to an asset. There is no reason to eliminate perfectionism altogether—instead, build on what's working and change what's not. The Perfectionist's Handbook helps readers to: Distinguish between intention and strategy as a way of improving outcomes Identify diminishing returns and how to redistribute time and resources Make the most of mistakes rather than being preoccupied with trying to avoid them Learn to focus on your "Top 10" list as a way of getting the most out of your life Access others more effectively as a way of improving performance Obtain more balance in their lives

How to Be an Imperfectionist

Author: Stephen Guise
Publisher: Selective Entertainment LLC
ISBN: 9780996435413
Release Date: 2015-05-22
Genre: Psychology

Imperfectionists Accomplish More with Less Stress I remember when I aimed for perfect workouts: 30 minutes was the minimum. I was in lousy shape. I remember when I aimed for perfect dating: it couldn't be awkward, forced, or uncertain. I didn't talk to women of interest. I remember when I aimed for perfect writing: I wanted 1,000+ words of quality material per day. I played video games instead. I carefully avoided mistakes, endlessly ruminated about what I didn’t do, and what I did do wasn't enough. Then, I became an imperfectionist. Everything changed. I had fun stories to tell, like the lesbian pizza incident and the most nervous “Hi” ever spoken by a human being. I learned more. I laughed more. I lived more. I got in great shape, read more books, and improved my social skills. I wrote Mini Habits, which became an international bestseller, and is being translated into a dozen languages. I found I could mess up and still win. What's the New Way to Cure Perfectionism? The old way was to persuade people to “let go” of their need for perfection and hope they can do it. The new way is to persuade people to take simple, but highly-strategic actions, which let them effortlessly experience the process of “letting go" of perfectionism. Over time, these behaviors become habitual and the changes last. The old way was to tell perfectionists fight against and resist all perfectionistic thinking. The new way is to utilize the perfectionist's current desires by redirecting them to healthier applications, resulting in more success with less stress. The old way is based on popular but ineffective traditions of behavioral change, such as motivation-driven living, emotional manipulation, and an overall focus on the self instead of strategy. The new way starts with a deep understanding of how emotion, motivation, fear, action, ambition, desire for comfort, desire for safety, and our insecurities interact with one another to push us to a default state of perfectionism. Which of those factors do we focus on to reverse perfectionism? Well, you've got to read the book to find out the best strategies! What You'll DiscoverThe lesser known, but most damaging form of perfectionism almost every person hasA simple-to-apply technique to have unshakable confidenceWhy perfectionism hurts performance, and the rare exception where it helpsDetailed and customized solutions for these five subsets of perfectionism: need for approval, rumination, unrealistic expectations, concern over mistakes, and doubts about actionsFun illustrations with a powerful message to begin each chapter...and much more! Imperfectionism Is Freedom Perfectionism is a naturally limiting mindset. For example, kids are taught to color inside the lines, and any color outside the lines is considered a mistake that must be corrected. Imperfectionism frees us to live outside the lines, where possibilities are infinite, mistakes are allowed, and self-judgment is minimal. While the freedom from imperfectionism is impactful, it does not preclude us from having problems. Imperfectionists aren’t so ironic as to have perfect lives, they’re just happier, healthier, and more productive at doing what matters. If that sounds good to you, take the first step into imperfectionism and start reading How To Be An Imperfectionist right now!

Letting Go of Perfect

Author: Jill L. Adelson
Publisher:
ISBN: 1593633629
Release Date: 2009
Genre: Psychology

Proven strategies for helping kids and teens break free of the bonds of perfectionism. Letting Go of Perfect: Overcoming Perfectionism in Kids and Teens pinpoints a crippling state of mentality among many kids and teens today - the need to be absolutely perfect - and gives parents and teachers the guidance and support they need to help children break free of the anxieties and behaviors related to perfectionism. For children who believe their best is never good enough, perfectionism can lead to excessive guilt, lack of motivation, low self-esteem, depression, pessimism, obsessive and compulsive behavior, and a sense of rigidity. By delineating the major types of perfectionists and providing practical tips, the authors show parents and teachers how they can help these children effectively control their perfectionist tendencies and use those to their advantage. This engaging, practical book is a must-have for parents, teachers, and counselors wanting to help children overcome perfectionism, raise self-confidence, lessen guilt, increase motivation, and offer a future free of rigidity.

Overcoming Perfectionism

Author: Liisa Kyle
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 1544298781
Release Date: 2017-03-09
Genre:

Are you "picky," have too high standards, and rarely find things "good enough"? Perhaps you see yourself as a "control freak" or an outright "perfectionist." Perfectionism can get us far in life...yet left unchecked, it can take a hefty toll. Liisa Kyle, Ph.D. has developed a comprehensive approach to help you overcome your perfectionism with proven techniques and tools. In this practical guide you will learn: * what perfectionism really is * how your perfectionism affects you and others * three essential truths to overcome perfectionism * how to vanquish the false beliefs and fundamental fears that fuel your perfectionism * techniques to release your need for control * how to shift from anxiety to serenity * tools to transform your judgment to observation * ways to shift from dissatisfaction to acceptance...and even better...appreciation * how to put it all together to create a life you love If you are ready to overcome your perfectionism, here is the step-by-step guide to do just that. Liisa Kyle walks you through effective ways to disrupt each element of perfectionism with tools she's developed over the past twenty years of coaching individuals, facilitating groups, and delivering inventive workshops on four continents. Tags perfectionism, perfectionist, model of perfectionism, overcoming perfectionism, too hard on yourself, never good enough, chronic dissatisfaction, judgmental, good enough, anxiety, picky, self-imposed rules, control freak, personal development, personal growth, self-improvement, improve relationships, acceptance, gratitude, serenity, self-growth

The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook

Author: Martin M. Antony
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781626253421
Release Date: 2017-12-01
Genre: Self-Help

There’s nothing wrong with being shy. But if shyness or social anxiety keeps you from building meaningful relationships with others, advancing in your education or career, or simply living your best life, The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook offers a comprehensive program to help you confront your fears and become actively involved in the world. If you are shy or socially anxious, you may dread going to parties, speaking in front of crowds or people you don’t know, going to job interviews, and other critical life situations. You aren’t alone. In fact, studies show that millions of people suffer from a social anxiety disorder. Unfortunately, you can’t hide from some social situations—no matter how much you wish you could. But you don’t have to go on suffering silently. The good news is there are proven-effective techniques you can start using right away to help ease your anxiety or shyness and start living the life you were meant to live: a life where fear doesn’t get in the way of reaching your goals. This fully revised and updated third edition incorporates breakthrough new research and techniques for overcoming social phobia, including a new chapter on mindfulness-based treatments, updated information on medications, and an overview of treatment-enhancing technological advances. As you complete the activities in this workbook, you'll learn to find your strengths and weaknesses using self-evaluation, explore and examine your fears, create a personalized plan for change, and put your plan into action through gentle and gradual exposure to the very social situations that cause you to feel uneasy. After completing this program, you'll be well-equipped to make connections with the people around you. Soon, you'll be on your way to enjoying all the benefits of being actively involved in the social world. If you’re ready to confront your fears to live an enjoyable, satisfying life, this new edition of The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook offers a comprehensive program to help you get started. What are you waiting for? This book has been awarded The Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Seal of Merit—an award bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.

Perfectionism

Author: Paul L. Hewitt
Publisher: Guilford Publications
ISBN: 9781462529124
Release Date: 2017-03-16
Genre: Psychology

Grounded in decades of influential research, this book thoroughly examines perfectionism: how it develops, its underlying mechanisms and psychological costs, and how to target it effectively in psychotherapy. The authors describe how perfectionistic tendencies--rooted in early relational and developmental experiences--make people vulnerable to a wide range of clinical problems. They present an integrative treatment approach and demonstrate ways to tailor interventions to the needs of individual clients. A group treatment model is also detailed. State-of-the-art assessment tools are discussed (and provided at the companion website). Throughout the book, vivid clinical illustrations make the core ideas and techniques concrete.

Overcoming Perfectionism

Author: Ann W. Smith
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
ISBN: 9780757317200
Release Date: 2013-03-05
Genre: Self-Help

Presents a description of the main features of perfectionism, along with advice on how to overcome its limitations and consequences and achieve greater intimacy and self-acceptance.

The Perfectionism Book

Author: Will van der Hart
Publisher: SPCK
ISBN: 9781783594023
Release Date: 2016-02-19
Genre: Religion

Our 24/7 world of endless information and demands poses a serious challenge to all who struggle with perfectionism. It’s all too easy to become trapped in an endless pursuit of achievement at the expense of the life you had always dreamed of living. This book is about a change in perspective - seeing perfectionism as the problem, rather than the goals or standards themselves. Far from being a little habit that keeps us striving, it is the thing that stops us celebrating anything we might achieve. We are more wedded to perfectionism than we realize. It is embedded in our culture and bound up in popular self-esteem. Even the Bible’s perfect words have been used to drive perfectionism in the church. The authors offer a fresh perspective on an age-old problem - a helpful blend of accessible theology, psychology and activity to lead us to a place of genuine freedom, gratitude and fulfilment.

The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens

Author: Ann Marie Dobosz
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 9781626254565
Release Date: 2016-10-01
Genre: Young Adult Nonfiction

Unhealthy perfectionism can result in low self-esteem, severe anxiety, and self-destructive behavior—and teens are especially vulnerable. Based in proven-effective cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), this workbook will help you develop the self-compassion and mindfulness tools you need to counteract the negative effects of perfectionism and develop new, healthy skills for boosting your self-confidence. In our high-pressure society, it’s easy to hold ourselves (and others) to impossibly high standards. And when we fail to meet those standards—as we inevitably do—we may become overly critical of ourselves, or lash out toward others. While perfectionism is often associated with positive traits, such as conscientiousness, ambition, and pride in good work, dysfunctional perfectionism is destructive and can lead to anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship problems, and a number of mental health concerns, like depression, procrastination, and self-harm. With The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens, you’ll gain a clear understanding of what perfectionism is and learn to differentiate between healthy and unhealthy perfectionism so you’ll be better able to manage your own and others’ expectations. Using powerful tools drawn from cognitive behavioral and mindfulness-based therapies, you’ll learn to identify your perfectionist thoughts, discover new ways of responding to your critical inner voice, and build the skills you need to combat negative behaviors based in perfectionism, like chronic procrastination. If perfectionism is causing trouble in your life, the techniques and exercises in this book will help you develop non-perfectionist skills and habits, leading to reduced fear, anxiety, and shame, and increased self-compassion and confidence in getting things done and handling daily pressures.

The Anti Anxiety Workbook

Author: Martin M. Antony
Publisher: Guilford Press
ISBN: 9781593859930
Release Date: 2008-12-19
Genre: Self-Help

Presents strategies for overcoming worry, phobias, panic, and obsessions, with a program that includes questions, worksheets, and facts about medications, herbal remedies, relaxation and meditation techniques, and more.