The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Author: John Gottman, PhD
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 9781101902912
Release Date: 2015-05-05
Genre: Family & Relationships

Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.

What Makes Love Last

Author: John Mordechai Gottman
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781451608489
Release Date: 2013-09-10
Genre: FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"--

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage

Author: John M. Gottman
Publisher: Harmony Books
ISBN: 9781400050192
Release Date: 2007
Genre: Family & Relationships

The experts at the Love Lab introduce a series of effective tools and practical steps for couples looking to improve or preserve their relationships, explaining how to identify common problems and to develop positive ways to avoid these destructive pitfalls. Reprint. 40,000 first printing.

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

Author: Patricia Love, Ed.D.
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 9780307496027
Release Date: 2009-01-21
Genre: Family & Relationships

Men are right. The “relationship talk” does not help. Dr. Patricia Love’s and Dr. Steven Stosny’s How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness: Love is not about better communication. It's about connection. You'll never get a closer relationship with your man by talking to him like you talk to one of your girlfriends. Male emotions are like women's sexuality: you can't be too direct too quickly. There are four ways to connect with a man:touch, activity, sex, routines. Men want closer marriages just as much as women do,but not if they has to act like a woman. Talking makes women move closer; it makes men move away. The secret of the silent male is this: his wife supplies the meaning in his life. The stunning truth about love is that talking doesn’t help. Have you ever had this conversation with your spouse? Wife: “Honey, we need to talk about us.” Husband: “Do we have to?” Drs. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny have studied this all-too-familiar dynamic between men and women and have reached a truly shocking conclusion. Even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship doesn’t bring you together, and it will eventually drive you apart. The reason for this is that underneath most couples’ fights, there is a biological difference at work. A woman’s vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man’s subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This is why so many married couples fall into the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband, and why improving a marriage can’t happen through words. How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It teaches couples how to get closer in ways that don’t require “trying to turn a man into a woman.” Rich in stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.

The Relationship Cure

Author: John Gottman, PhD
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 9781524761776
Release Date: 2017-02-22
Genre: Self-Help

A groundbreaking, practical program for transforming troubled relationships into positive ones “This is the best book on relationships I have ever read. . . . John Gottman has decoded the subtle secrets that can either enrich or destroy the quality of our ties with others.” Daniel B. Wile, Ph.D., author of After the Fight: Using Your Disagreements to Build a Stronger Relationship “John Gottman is our leading explorer of the inner world of relationships. In The Relationship Cure, he has found gold once again.”William J. Doherty, Ph.D., author of Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart “When he says his five steps will help you build better connections with the people you care about, you know that they have been demonstrated to work.” E. Mavis Heatherington, Ph.D., professor of psychology, University of Virginia From the country’s foremost relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Dr. John M. Gottman comes a powerful, simple five-step program, based on twenty years of innovative research, for greatly improving all of the relationships in your life—with spouses and lovers, children, siblings, and even your colleagues at work. In The Relationship Cure, Dr. Gottman: * Reveals the key elements of healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of what he calls “emotional connection” * Introduces the powerful new concept of the emotional “bid,” the fundamental unit of emotional connection * Provides remarkably empowering tools for improving the way you bid for emotional connection and how you respond to others’ bids

Summary the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Author: Readtrepreneur Publishing
Publisher:
ISBN: 1986651681
Release Date: 2018-03-19
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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman | Book Summary | Readtrepreneur (Disclaimer: This is NOT the original book. If you're looking for the original book, search this link:http://amzn.to/2keP8hT) The man who revolutionized the study of marriage is here to help you make your relationship work. Seven principles are all you need to keep your marriage running smoothly. It's not easy being married, there are a lot of struggles that weaken the relationship so it's wise to listen to advices from people with a large experience on the field, so you can live a nice and happy marriage. That's what this book is all about, just 7 principles that contain a ton of advices to make your marriage work. (Note: This summary is wholly written and published by readtrepreneur.com It is not affiliated with the original author in any way) "Some people leave a marriage literally, by divorcing. Others do so by leading parallel lives together." - John M. Gottman With a straightforward approach that will leave no doubts in the process, John Gottman writes a book which is the culmination of his work that will teach you his strategies to make your marriage work. Sadly, in this life, we don't know it all, so it behooves you to learn from the best to obtain the greatest results and Dr. John Gottman is an individual that excels in the study of marriage. Dr. Gottman also included questionnaires and exercises so you could put into practice all you have learned. If you just read his book but don't commit to it, you won't get what you want! P.S. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is an extremely helpful book that will put your marriage in a path of true happiness. The Time for Thinking is Over! Time for Action! Scroll Up Now and Click on the "Buy now with 1-Click" Button to Get Your Copy Delivered to Your Doorstep Right Away! Why Choose Us, Readtrepreneur? Highest Quality Summaries Delivers Amazing Knowledge Awesome Refresher Clear And Concise Disclaimer Once Again: This book is meant for a great companionship of the original book or to simply get the gist of the original book. If you're looking for the original book, search for this link: http://amzn.to/2keP8hT

The Man s Guide to Women

Author: John Gottman
Publisher: Rodale Books
ISBN: 9781623361853
Release Date: 2016-02-02
Genre: Family & Relationships

Results from world-renowned relationship expert John Gottman’s famous Love Lab have proven an incredible truth: Men make or break relationships. Based on 40 years of research, The Man’s Guide to Women unlocks the mystery of how to attract, satisfy, and succeed with a woman for a lifetime. For the first time ever, there is a science-based answer to the age-old question: What do women really want in a man? Dr. Gottman, author of the New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, and his wife and collaborator, clinical psychologist Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, have pored over the research along with bestselling coauthors Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD. Together, they have written this definitive guide for men, providing answers on everything from how to approach a woman and build a connection with her to how to truly satisfy her in bed and know when the relationship is on the right track. The Man’s Guide to Women is a must-have playbook for how to play—and win—the game of love.

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail

Author: John Gottman
Publisher: A&C Black
ISBN: 9781408834442
Release Date: 2012-04-12
Genre: Family & Relationships

Psychologist and top marriage guru John Gottman has spent twenty years studying what makes a marriage last - now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen and maintain your long-term relationship. This ground-breaking book will enable you to see where your strengths and weaknesses lie, what specific actions you can take to improve your marriage and how to avoid the damaging patterns that can lead to divorce. It includes: - Practical exercises and techniques that will allow you to understand and make the most of your relationship - Ways to recognise and overcome the attitudes that doom a marriage - Questionnaires that will help you evaluate your relationship - Case studies and anecdotes from real life throughout

10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology

Author: Julie Schwartz Gottman
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
ISBN: 9780393710502
Release Date: 2015-10-26
Genre: Psychology

From the country’s leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work. In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world’s leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they've gained over their years of practice into ten principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling. Topics addressed include: • You know that you need to “treat the relationship,” but how are you supposed to get at something as elusive as “a relationship”? • How do you empathize with both clients if they have opposite points of view? Later on, if they end up separating does that mean you’ve failed? Are you only successful if you keep couples together? • Compared to an individual client, a relationship is an entirely different animal. What should you do first? What should you look for? What questions should you ask? If clients give different answers, who should you believe? • What are you supposed to do with all the emotional and personal history that your clients stir up in you? • How can you make your work research-based? No one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance, and strategies offered in this book.

Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage

Author: Lesli Doares
Publisher: Femme Osage Pub
ISBN: 1934509361
Release Date: 2011-03-15
Genre: Family & Relationships

Marriage has evolved and is no longer restricted by the rules of the past. Without the old rules to rely upon, many couples feel unsure or confused about how to make this unique relationship flourish, and marriage has become fragile in today's world. Now there is help. Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage offers simple steps you can use right now to make your marriage the relationship you have always dreamed of. You will learn: The most important shift necessary for a successful marriage How to stay in love after falling in love How to have a great marriage without working at it How to tackle disagreements without fighting The surprising factors that put marriages at risk Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage gives you the key steps you need to create a strong and successful marriage and provides the tools to build your happily ever after.

Created for Connection

Author: Sue Johnson
Publisher: Little, Brown
ISBN: 9780316307406
Release Date: 2016-10-04
Genre: Family & Relationships

"Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love."--1 John 4:8 Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? Do you yearn to grow closer to God, and to further incorporate Him and His teachings into your marriage? We all want a lifetime of love, support, and faith. But sometimes we need a little help. Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and "the best couple therapist in the world," according to bestselling relationship expert Dr. John Gottman. In CREATED FOR CONNECTION, Dr. Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer, a leading EFT practitioner in the Christian community, share Johnson's groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships not only between partners, but between us and God. The message of CREATED FOR CONNECTION is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, or making grand romantic gestures. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent, and we are on the Heavenly Father, for nurturing, soothing, and protection. The way to enhance or save our relationships with each other and with God is to be open, attuned, responsive, and to reestablish safe emotional connection. Filled with Bible verses, inspiring real-life stories, and guidance, CREATED FOR CONNECTION will ensure a lifetime of love.

The Relationship Alphabet

Author: Zach Brittle
Publisher: BookBaby
ISBN: 9781483555423
Release Date: 2015-06-15
Genre: Family & Relationships

The Relationship Alphabet is an alphabetical survey of relationship topics based on the research of Dr. John Gottman. The book includes insights on communication, conflict management and friendship building. Practical discussion questions make it easy to turn ideas into action.

I Love You but I m Not in Love with You

Author: Andrew G Marshall
Publisher: A&C Black
ISBN: 9781408810989
Release Date: 2010-02-15
Genre: Family & Relationships

How do you fall back in love? This was the underlying problem of one in four couples seeking help from relationship therapist Andrew G. Marshall. They described their problem as: 'I love you but I'm not in love with you'. Noticing how widespread the phenomenon had become, he decided to look more closely. Why were these relationships becoming defined more by companionship than by passion, and why was companionship no longer enough? From his research Andrew has devised his own unique programme. By looking at how a couple communicate, argue, share love, take responsibility, give and learn he offers in seven steps a reassuring and empowering map for how two individuals can better understand themselves, strengthen their bond and recover that lost magic.

And Baby Makes Three

Author: John Mordechai Gottman
Publisher: Harmony Books
ISBN: 9781400097388
Release Date: 2008-01
Genre: Family & Relationships

Drawing on separate scientific studies, two relationship experts introduce the knowledge and skills couples need to make the transition to parenthood, using practical advice and real-life examples to help couples avoid relationship meltdown, maintain a healthy sex life, preserve emotional intimacy, prevent postpartum depression, and create a nurturing environment. Reprint. 50,000 first printing.