Author: Jackson MacKenzie
Release Date: 2015-09-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
A significantly expanded edition of Psychopath Free—containing new chapters, updated content, and real survivor experiences. Have you ever been in a relationship with a psychopath? Chances are, even if you did, you would never know it. Psychopaths are cunning charmers and master manipulators, to the point where you start to accept the most extreme behaviors as normal…Even if it hurts you. All around us, every single day, human beings devoid of empathy are wreaking havoc and destroying lives in the coldest, most heartless ways imaginable. In constant pursuit of money, sex, influence, or simple entertainment, psychopaths will do whatever it takes to gain power over others. They hide behind a veil of normalcy, arranging their friends and partners like pawns in a game of chess. Using false praise and flattery to get what they want, they can lure any unsuspecting target into a relationship. Once hooked, their charming promises spin into mind games and psychological torture. Victims are left devastated and confused, unable to recognize—or even put into words—the nightmare that just took place. Written from the heart, Psychopath Free is the first guide for survivors written by a survivor, offering hope for healing and thriving after psychopathic abuse. Say goodbye to the chaos, self-doubt, and victimization. You are free.
Using false praise and flattery to get what they want, psychopaths can lure any unsuspecting target into a relationship. Once hooked, their charming promises spin into mind games and psychological torture. Victims are left devastated and confused, unable to recognise - or even put into words - the nightmare that just took place. Psychopath Free is the first guide for survivors written by a survivor, offering hope for healing and thriving after psychopathic abuse.
Author: Paula Carrasquillo
Publisher: Xlibris Corporation
Release Date: 2012-08-27
Genre: Family & Relationships
This is the story of a seemingly innocent little boy who grows into a ferocious, conscienceless, ugly monster that destroys and devours everything good and pure that crosses his path. From tender childhood friendships to sweet innocent romances, nothing is immune to the monsters dark spell and insidious nature. This is also a story of survival and hope: survival of intimate partner abuse and hope that one day there will be an end to domestic violence and to the suffering of the silent victims. Twice, I have been a victim (and survivor) of domestic violence/intimate partner abuse in my lifetime. At the age of 18, I was physically abused by my boyfriend who was also 18. He beat me repeatedly and threatened my life in many ways. I was able to escape the relationship but never spoke about it and was determined NEVER to put myself in that type of danger in the future. Twenty years later, at the age of 38, I found myself in another abusive relationship, but I didnt recognize it as abusive because he never assaulted me physically (at first); the abuse was verbal and emotional. The control was overwhelming, and the insidiousness of his abuse slowly took over me and nearly destroyed my spirit and faith in goodness. Today, 18 months after escaping my second abusive relationship, I have vowed to speak. I cannot remain silent. Paula Carrasquillo August 21, 2012
Author: Sarah Strudwick
Publisher: S S Products
Release Date: 2010-07
Genre: Political Science
Dark Souls looks inside the minds of psychopaths and narcissists as well as the minds and emotional traits of the people that tend to be their victims, people who have oodles of empathy, tolerance and compassion but sadly have huge self-esteem issues themselves. She gives us a plethora of red flags to look for in terms of the psychopaths and narcissists behaviour and in further identifying and learning more information about the pathological personalities of these Dark Souls and peoples difficulty and attachment to them. Her book further suggests to the reader useful coping mechanisms and ideas which are so important for a person finding themselves in this very difficult situation, a position where one can die a death of the spirit by hanging around too long with them. For those who have been luckily enough not to have encountered these people Dark Souls provides a Practical guide on spotting psychopathic personalities for those that want to be able to spot them in the first place before they spot us. Dark Souls is a deeply personal story written by a woman who had a relationship with a narcissistic Psychopath. She draws on her own experience and that of research and discusses Psychopathy and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. With an estimated 1-4 per cent of the population having this disorder we are likely to run into one every single day of our lives. Sarah Strudwick who was unfortunate enough to have a run in with a number of them during her lifetime decided to look at the spiritual damage these people do to their victims when they con them for financial, sexual or emotional gain. Dark Souls - Healing and recovering from Toxic Relationships, provides a valuable handbook for those who have been in relationship with them and some valuable healing tools for those people who are left emotionally, financially and often spiritually devastated.
Author: Wendy T. Behary
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Release Date: 2013-07-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in magical thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life? You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one—so ignoring them isn’t really a practical solution. They're frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them. Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll also find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist. This book will help you learn to meet your own needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe. This new edition also includes new chapters on dealing with narcissistic women, aggressive and abusive narcissists, strategies for safety, and the link between narcissism and sex addiction. Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.
Author: Lillian Glass
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Release Date: 2010-10-18
Genre: Family & Relationships
Know Thine Toxic Man. Toxic men come in all shapes, sizes, and dysfunctions. The trick is to know one when you see one--and how to deal with him. In this book, bestselling author and therapist Dr.Lillian Glass shows you how to identify toxic men, and gives you the specific tools you need to avoid them when you can--and handle them effectively when you cannot. This groundbreaking look at toxic men and the women who are involved with them offers a three-part approach: Part One: 10 types of toxic men, from the "Sneaky Passive Aggressive Silent But Deadly Erupting Volcano" to the "Instigating Backstabbing Meddler" Part Two: 10 ways to deal with toxic men, including the "Blow Out, Let It Go Technique" and the "Give Them Hell and Yell Technique" Part Three: How to heal after a toxic relationship, from getting professional help to making amends With Dr. Glass's profound yet practical advice, you can take charge of your life--and rid your relationships of toxic men once and for all. Whether you're struggling to date a decent guy or are already trapped in a toxic relationship, Dr. Glass gives you the answers you need to leave dysfunction behind--and find a man capable of a health, loving relationship.
I Am Free, the title of this book embodies its core message. For anyone who has the misfortune of being embroiled in a toxic love relationship or family relationship, the narratives shared by other survivors can serve as encouragement that escape is possible. None of the writers sugar coated their experiences or the degree of effort that it took to survive, leave and heal from such traumatic relationships. Time and again, these writers shared that, charmed by their partner, they ignored their inner voices when those early alarm bells rang. Many of these individuals were well-educated, and had successful careers, until... they sank into the quicksand of toxic partnership. These stories are brutally honest and chronicle the careful grooming process so typical of these kinds of unhealthy and damaging relationships. This makes for a challenging read and it is important that they be read as both a cautionary warning and an illuminating light so that others might escape and or avoid the perils that these stories narrate. Review "I'm sure this book will be a powerful guiding light for many people seeking to crawl out of the mire of narcissistic abuse. By providing insight and validation from the stories of other survivors, it will be a powerful force for growth and change in the life of the reader." - Richard Grannon BSc (hons) Author of How To Take Revenge On A Narcissist
It was no easy feat to survive childhood being raised by a diagnosed sociopath father and a mentally-ill mother - especially for a child that leads from her heart. When she turned eighteen, her father called her an "old loser" and told her to leave home. On her own, this adult-child navigates the world with an innate sense of her "oldness" in search of meaning. The writer travels from the Rust Belt to the West Coast to Turkey trying to not only save herself, but the animals and bad men that she attracts along the way. This book highlights a sensitive child, with a strong soul, who grows up to be a confused woman searching for love in damaging men without ever losing track of her inner compass...her Will...her love for animals and her urge to keep expanding. My Sociopath is the first book of its kind to give a revealing look at the making of an Empath and how this sensitive person navigates in a world of Narcissists and Sociopaths. It is a flash of memoir mixed with a new and imaginative look into the deep workings of Sociopaths, Narcissists, and the rarely discussed Empaths. This is not a victim's "loss of love" rant; nor is it a repeat of all the old sociopath traits and checklists that we've all been inundated with. This is a well thought out, innovative, free thinking and spirited version of all the old sociopath books. The writer is constantly analyzing human behaviors and motivations through soul needs of all players and offers fresh advice all along for bettering our existence. You don't have to wait to get to the Healing Section to receive inspirational nudges along the way. The author maintains that none of us are ever truly healed from trauma, but instead, we must focus on our expansion. My Sociopath is infused with splatterings of thoughts from the ancient wisdom writers for more in-depth pondering and to incite our creative flow. Author, Lynna Kivela, goes against traditional and repeated beliefs that Narcissists lack empathy. They do have empathy, but not in the way we're used to seeing. All new "checklists" are given and the author explains her own hypothesis regarding the destructive forces that walk amongst us and why some of us, usually Empaths, are continually absorbed by their damaging energy. All of us are formed into being by what the author conceives as our mother's "Emotional Body." My Sociopath infuses the emotional and mental-workings of all players and instead of a remote view of perpetrator, victim, and enabler, a vulnerable expression of everyone's intense need for love and acceptance is revealed. The author asserts that in order to recover from childhood abuse that results in a life of attracting dysfunction, we must untangle our "emotional body" by examining the patterns in our life that most of us refuse to see, but that we must recognize, so to stop the destruction. You will not only see, but feel, a combination of the author's essence of teacher, healer, creator and a person on a healing journey herself. The writer turns her ideas into well organized lists and easy to read segments with headings from not only the point of being a well trained teacher, but from her personal knowing that trauma victims have a hard time with concentration and focus. She writes about her many days of "looming gray clouds in her mind." My Sociopath is An Empath's Soul Journey Among Sociopath.
Author: Ross A. Rosenberg
Publisher: PESI Publishing & Media
Release Date: 2013-04-01
"Born in the cauldron of personal experience of suffering and healing and honed through years of professional experience, this book will help anyone understand the attractors of love and consequent suffering. I recommend it to couples who are mystified by the depth and repitition of their pain and joy and to therapists whose destiny is to help them." ~ Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., co-author with Helen LaKelly Hunt of Making Marriage Simple: Transform the Relationship you Have Into the Relationship you Want Since the dawn of civilization, men and women have been magnetically and irresistibly drawn together into romantic relationships, not so much by what they see, feel and think, but more by invisible forces. When individuals with healthy emotional backgrounds meet, the irresistible “love force” creates a sustainable, reciprocal and stable relationship. Codependents and emotional manipulators are similarly enveloped in a seductive dreamlike state; however, it will later unfold into a painful “seesaw” of love, pain, hope and disappointment. The soul mate of the codependent’s dreams will become the emotional manipulator of their nightmares. Readers of the Human Magnet Syndrome will better understand why they, despite their dreams for true love, find themselves hopelessly and painfully in love with partners who hurt them. This book will guide and inspire both the layman and the professional.
Whether caused by words, actions, or even indifference, emotional abuse is common--yet often overlooked. This helpful guide reveals how those who have been abused by a spouse, parent, employer, or minister can overcome the past and rebuild their self-image. It includes •strategies for dealing with the verbal abuser •self-check quizzes with each chapter •keys to rebuilding relationships •letters from survivors of emotional abuse •help dealing with spiritual abuse •a biblical plan for healing
Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse." Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual. In this book, survivors will learn: •The red flags of narcissistic behavior and covert manipulation tactics, including subtle signs many survivors don't catch in the early stages of dating a narcissist. •The motives behind narcissistic abuse and techniques to resist a narcissist's manipulation. •Why abuse survivors usually stay with a narcissist long after incidents of abuse occur. •How our own brain chemistry locks us into an addiction with a narcissistic or toxic partner, creating cravings for the constant chaos of the abuse cycle. •Traditional and alternative methods to begin to detach and heal from the addiction to the narcissist, including eleven important steps all survivors must take on the road to healing. •Methods to rewrite the narratives that abusers have written for us so we can begin to reconnect with our authentic selves and purpose. •How to rebuild an even more victorious and empowering life after abuse.
Author: L. Kevin Hamberger, PhD
Publisher: Springer Publishing Company
Release Date: 2004-01-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
This volume makes a signal contribution to understanding and treating couples' abuse. The editors and contributors expand the models of abusive relationships to include the special concerns of gay and lesbian couples, mutually violent partners, abusive women, and others. Based on a special issue of the respected journal Violence and Victims, the book shatters myths surrounding domestic violence and sheds new light on a complex social problem. This volume will be a resource for counselors, therapists, and social workers concerned with domestic violence, as well as for students and educators in the field.
This book is small, but mighty. If you were involved in a pathological relationship -- or you want to prevent it from happening in the first place -- this book is for you. It gets to the heart of the matter of personal boundaries. Identifying and setting clear boundaries is vital for survivors and for anyone who wants to become more confident, improve relationships, and prevent victimization. When you create boundaries you take a stand for yourself and your life, and you communicate your worth to others in a real and practical way. This concise and powerful book is filled with practical wisdom and useful tips. It will walk you through the process of creating boundaries from start to finish. You get to decide how you want to live. Find your courage. Live in an authentic way. Protect yourself and what's important to you. Gain self respect and the respect of others. Boundaries will help you do all of these things. "The BEST Manual on how to protect yourself from becoming a victim again - I know the subject too well... I am going to recommend it to the facilitators in the divorce support group I am attending." "This small book was full of tons of useful information. I don't usually write in my books, but my copy of Boundaries has underlining on almost every page. I was really glad I bought it." "Excellent Book for Individual, Group or Use in Therapy. A very well written book by an author who has a firm grip on abusers and their cunning ways. Excellent description on what boundaries are, why they are needed and what they can do for the holder of the newly created list of personal boundaries. This book if studied and put into practice could protect many from the narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths in all areas of one's life. It would lend exceptional protection in the area of dating. It would protect a person from repeating the selection of another abuser if a past relationship was abusive. Highly recommend!" "Super Helpful: Make And Keep Your Boundaries.This is a really well written book. I found her tips for discovering, recording and keeping your personal boundaries extremely helpful." "My eyes have seen the light. How I wish I would have read this book years ago." "Worth your time! Well written, clear, and concise. So thankful I came across this quick, but powerful read. Having separated myself from an 8 year long destructive marriage, and reading many, many books on the topic, I so appreciate the wisdom I found in this writing. I feel empowered once more! Easily rated at 5 stars."
Author: D. C. Johnson
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
Release Date: 2017-07-05
There are toxic people in our lives who have done us emotional harm and are holding us back from who we can and want to be. Toxic people all have characteristics in common. It is crucial we recognize them and learn to deal with them. Toxic people are manipulative, controlling, self-centered, destructive and insecure. Their insecurity drives them to put others down. They shame us and fill us with guilt if we don't support them or criticize them. They can never be wrong. Which means, we are always in the wrong. Toxic people are born narcissists. It's important to learn what drives toxic people and how to not become their victim. In "Are You In A Toxic Relationship? How to Let Go and Move On With Your Life," you will learn to recognize toxic people. They can be your parents, siblings, spouse or boss. Parents can establish very destructive patterns with their children. Because children are young and don't know better, they come to believe this pattern is normal and continue along the same path as adults. They let more toxic people into their lives and are afraid to trust people who are supportive. You will learn to break the patterns of toxicity and let happiness and joy into your life. You will never change a toxic person. But you can change yourself, your own life, and where you go in life. It's a wonderful journey, and this book can be your guide to achieving a happier and more fulfilling life.